Talking to Aging Parents About Driving: Why It’s Time to Have the Conversation
A new scratch on the bumper. Hesitation to drive at night. Avoiding trips that require leaving home. These could be the first subtle signs that it’s time for families to start a conversation with aging parents about driving safety. Unfortunately, these critical discussions are not happening nearly enough.
According to a recent survey conducted by Home Instead, Inc., the franchisor of the Home Instead Senior Care® network that provides in-home care services, 95% of seniors have never discussed driving with their loved ones. Yet, nearly one-third (31%) of older adults said they would consider giving up driving if a family member or friend suggested it.
Why Senior Driving Conversations Matter
“As adults, we don’t hesitate to talk to our teenage children about driving,” said Elin Schold Davis, occupational therapist and project coordinator for the Older Driver Initiative of the American Occupational Therapy Association. “But when it comes to our own aging parents, we often drop the ball.”
Open, proactive communication with seniors can reduce discomfort and defensiveness around limiting or stopping driving. “Families just need to know how to start the dialogue,” added Schold Davis.
Driving Is Tied to Independence
For nearly 90% of older adults, driving represents freedom and independence. Many seniors over age 70 can still drive safely, but it’s important to develop a plan before a medical condition or cognitive decline makes driving unsafe.
To support families in having these delicate discussions, Home Instead launched the Let’s Talk About Driving℠ program. Developed in collaboration with Schold Davis, the initiative offers free tools and educational resources to help families talk to aging loved ones about driving, before a crisis occurs.
Free Online Driving Resources for Families
The Let’s Talk About Driving program includes a powerful digital tool called the Safe Driving Planner. This web-based resource helps families:
- Assess a senior loved one’s current driving ability
- Recognize early warning signs of unsafe driving
- Start and guide productive conversations
- Plan for driving transitions in a respectful, empowering way
Other helpful features available at LetsTalkAboutDriving.com include:
- A checklist of warning signs that an older adult may be unsafe on the road
- Guidance on how to ease the transition away from driving
- Information about new vehicle technologies that help keep seniors safer
Signs It May Be Time to Reevaluate Driving
In addition to visible vehicle damage, families should watch for the following signs of driving difficulties in older adults:
- Physical challenges with turning or backing up
- Increased agitation or anxiety while driving
- Difficulty staying in the correct lane
- Slower reaction times or delayed responses
“We’re passionate about helping seniors live comfortably and independently for as long as possible,” said Jeff Huber, president and CEO of Home Instead, Inc. “Having a proactive conversation about driving helps older adults take ownership of their decisions while maintaining dignity and safety.”
About the Research
The findings are based on a survey conducted by Braun Research, which completed phone interviews with 600 North American seniors age 70 and older who currently have a valid driver’s license or were former drivers. The study explored seniors’ driving habits, perceptions, and openness to giving up driving. The survey was conducted on behalf of Home Instead, Inc.
Take the First Step Today
Having the conversation about when to stop driving doesn’t have to be stressful. With the right tools and mindset, families can build an informed and compassionate roadmap that prioritizes safety, mobility, and independence.
To explore free resources and begin the discussion with your loved one, visit www.LetsTalkAboutDriving.com.